We had to send pepper to heaven in july. She was sick. She was 14. I miss her still very deeply. She was my best friend my baby i love her. And i miss her every day.
I thought we'd wait a while to get a new dog. How could i possibly love some other dog while hurting so badly.
But i do and we did. He needed a home. East st louis is not a safe place for anyone, particularly animals.
We have a pup. He is a mutt. Pitt and lab we think. He is hyper and hilarious. Loves thw boys very much. Love us. I dont love him the same. Because he isn't the same. I still love pep and misa her.
It is so nice having a dog though and he really needed a home.
And i needed a dog. Sleeping at night without one bothered me beyond words. Id literally walk to the door to let a dog out even when pepper was gone. There was food everywhere. Apparently james is notorious for taking a bite and putting it down. Who knew? Pepper lol
Percy is a great dog. He was very calm as a baby pup. Lol and that passed quickly. Once he started to feel safe. Got regular food and water. He really started to perk up lol.
He loves to play with the boys and they love him ♡ he also loves dinosaurs. James will be getting new dinosaurs Christmas as we have lost a great many of them to Percy thw dinosaur slayer.
(Yes we named him after percy Jackson as we already have a sirius and no other hp name fit lol)
Thursday, November 6, 2014
Percy the dinosaur slayer
Tuesday, October 7, 2014
azure dreams come true
My hope
My life
Complete
If only i could swim in their innocence
Be covered in the sweetness
That flows out of them
How we longed
And prayed
For these
Beautiful azure pools
The wonderful
Hues of blue
That are your eyes
Our boys
My sons
Full of life and love
Hopes and dreams
A future
Held in the palm of our creator
How amazing and in awe
Am I
That He trusted me with
Such beautiful eyes
Souls
People
You will both grow up
And be men
It is happening before my eyes
How quickly
A baby fades
To a toddler
To a boy
One day a man
My sons
With thick flowing hair
Strong hands
Already
That boyish facade
Will whisper away
Like the baby
Who disappears
In broad daylight
Those tiny noses
The gentle coos
The soft i love you
My boys
The sweet moments
Of hearing you sleep
The angelic face as you dream
And then you open those eyes
Those big beautiful
Crystal clear
Blue fountains of life
Oh how i love you
How much hope and joy
Peace and meaning
Answered prayers
You and you
My boys
Mommy loves you
Tuesday, September 16, 2014
Complicated
Ok. So mental health is a serious condition. It should be taken seriously. It is sad that in our society it is more of a joke and a made up weakness.
Fake. Doing it for attention. They should just get over it. You can stop whenever you want. You need to grow up. Immature. Selfish.
Post partume. Bipolar. Depression. Post traumatic stress disorder. Anxiety. Suicide. Not fake.
Hurtful things that people who dont suffer mental illness say. I've been guilty too.
I have had panic attacks. I struggle with anorexia. It is a struggle Ill have for the reat of my life. Sometimes I can forg it and other times it is a daily fight to eat. It's all in my head.
It is easy to forget how complicated the mind is, and how powerful it is. While it is super easy for me to recover from a panic attack and not have anxiety and depression daily, I do struggle with my self esteem. I cant just tell myself Im pretry and not fat and accept that. Much like my husband can't just tell his anxiety that there is no reason to worry so stop.
Of course we have faith in God and Jesus and know that He can and will help us through this. We also know that God gave us resources like councelors ect.
As Ive been on the hunt seeing what our insurance covers and finding drs for us, I'm finding soo many places. Places like blah blah wellspring of blah for mental health. There are so many mental health resources and centers near us. And I am angry. I have many dear friends and family members that struggle with bipolar depression and anxiety. Why are these places not being used more? Im really upset at how not well known the resources are known. How can they be utilized beforehand, before crisis, if no one knows about them.
I want to help in our area, and I think awareness is where it needs to start.
Sunday, September 14, 2014
Cant sleep
I love that our windows are open. I really hope we can move to a home where we can set up a fire pit. I tend to like to be in the front yard mkre than the back. So we are looking for houses with nice fwnced back yard and semi private ish front yard. Ill just have to get lots lf shrubs or something lol
Anyway im so excited it is fall. I was blessed and went shopping for my bday with my dad to get new shoes and a sweater. I love sweaters. Im getting yarn for hilkarys mom so she can make me a ravenclaw scarf and a grey hat. James is getting a gryffindor sp hat lol. I loove fall. I wish it lasted wayyy longer.
It is gorgeous outside and i love the crisp mornings! We will be going to the zoo with mel soon and the mo gardens with shawna. Tim said he wants to take the boys to the zoo on a weekend again too. Apple picking. We will do that too and the pumpkin farm!! Ohhh how i love fall. Pumpkin bread and butternut squash. Guys. I really love fall.
Ive been thinking hard abojt it too. I think my next blog ill have points and everything lol, about fall traditions. It is in fact up to tim and I what traditions we want for our family, for our boys. It is such an awesome feeling knowing we get to start something so precious as family tradition.
What are some things you love to do?
Wednesday, September 3, 2014
And dont give up hope.
I have a really full plate right now. Life is hectic. But hope. Always hope.
I really am trying to figure out how and where to start something for mental health in the area I live. My husband suffers anxiety and depression (and ptsd after my hospital experience). It can be debilitating. He is amazing and strong. He has no idea. I hope one day he sees himself like I do. I hope one day I can see him like He does.
Hope there is that word again.
We are having issues with James school, so we want to move. Which means selling this house buying a new one. It means a job transfer. Something we have been praying for for years. But I always trust that God is listening. His timing is perfect. My hope is placed in the right one.
Hope. Trust. You cant trust God too much. You cant have too much faith, and you can't tell God there is never hope. There is always hope. Not how we want. Maybe not how we like. But He is always there right? He said He is. So He is. So there is always hope.
I'm embarking on a big journey. Finishing and publishing my books. That itself is overwhelming. I have tims support though. Hope. That puffs me up full of hope and drive.
I know that if I strive to do these things, I can. If I don't there will be some good outcome learning experiences something.
Life is not what we make it, but life is full of hope and beauty. Keep God in the center lf it and watch what He does. Some days I dont get to read my bible. Because I didnt make enough effort. How amazing is it that I have hope for a better tomorrow than today. I can always hope for myself to do better. I can try and keep trying.
Hope really is pretty neat.
Please dont stop hoping for your better tomorrow or today. Jesus is hope and with Him all things are possible ♡
Thursday, August 21, 2014
Part 1 of 3 : my hubby
I am so sick with a tummy virus today that my husband stayed home. He was up all night wjth me helping with the kids and with me. He himself is not feeling great, but he is ok.
I am so thankful. He let me take a nap and watched the kids. He went and got me soup and Gatorade. It doesn't seem like a lot but I can't even get to the door. It is days like today that I remember how blessed I am. I know every day I am blessed. I need to convey that more to him. We have been through so much. I don't even know where to start. I'm not even sure I can finish our srory in 3 parts lol. I honestly could write a book about our story.
So I guess I will start in 4th grade.
In fourth grade I had a teacher going through an almost divorce, is the way I understood it. I went to a private school. She told the whole class one day, to pray. She said to pray that when we did marry, that we married the right person the first time. That we would marry the person God made for us. So I did. I prayed. Every day. I did because, I was raised in an unstable home. I at a very young age understood how important a stable loving family was. I wanted one. The only way I'd ever get one was going to have me as the the wife, the mother, not the daughter. So I prayed.
I qent through life. Boyfriends here and there. Some serious some not. Some where fun , other's were learning experiences. None were real love. You don't know real love until it happens. And when it happens. Wow. It hits you like a hurricane. But it starts out of the blue. Like a freak storm you were not prepared for.
We had a mutual friend. I worked with said friend and McDonald's. Friend brought guy through drive thru. He thought I was cute. I don't remember him. Friend helped him get a job there. I called him todd for two weeks. I ignored his name tag. I couldn't stand him. He was an annoying and over confident. I had no ideathat hewljld be my best friend, my husband, my lover, my companion, the father of my children. They guy God made for me. The guy God made me for. No idea. Not a clue.
We closed together one night. I was ignoring him as usual. Being a total b word to him. On purpose. He was using said friends mp3 player. He was listening to AC/DC. I love them. For the record, our song is "You Shook Me All Night Long" that is my ringtone for him today. I can't change it. Ever.
So we talked about music. We about video games. We talked abouts sports. Hook line and sinker. I was head over heels and I had no idea.
We went on double datws with friend. We went to kovies with friend and just us. We hung out at friends house. I was terrified to bring him home. My family for sure would scare him away.
I called said friend one night. I had no idea future husband was there. Not a clue. I asked so many questions! Favorite movies color car food drink song game everything I didn't find out husband was there and heard that phone call until after we were married. Husband said that phone call made him interested for a date. A real one. And so we both fell. Fast. Hard. I mean so fast that 3 months in we knew we where getting married. We were picking oit names for our kids. Hurricane. It was just starting. We had no idea the up hill battle we were about to embark on.
It was worth it. I'd do it all over again.
Wednesday, August 20, 2014
Life is too precious
You can turn on the news any time of day and see murder left and right. No respect for life. Something so fragile lost. At the drop of a hat. For what? Religion? Peace? Silence?A statement? Peace? None but love is a worthy cause. None but love. Love to save a life. Love to preserve a life. No one life is more significat than another, but I can see love as a just cause to lay down a life.
It is not a secret, but I have not talked a lot about it. I almost died. It is something I have to live with every day. It affects my every day. My husband has to dealwith ptsd.He almost lost me, and it damn near killed him. It very much hurt him, and now we have to over come anxiety every day. (Please pray or him)
I get extra emotional about stuff now. James started preschool. That is hard enough. Throw in apanic attack , because I almost wasnt here to see it. Seriously. Titus birthdayis coming up, mine is comingup, christmas, anniversary. These things I almost did not see. Every day I have here is a gift.
Everyday is not easy. Sometimes with my husbands anxiety I feel like my life is a burden not a gift. Sometimes it hurts. You get your feelings hurt, and it hurts worse. It hurts worse, because that gift seems to wear off for others quickly.They forget the realness of it quickly. They forget what it was like. I dont.I cant. Every day i wake up I am like I a still here. I am so thankful. So thankful. I am learning that a lot of people dont know what itmeans to truly be thankful. They dont know what it means to really value life.
Ive lost family and friendsto suicide. It breaks my heart anyways. After quickly fading to hardly alive and bleeding nearly to death after having Titus, it now hurts more. Worse. Harder. All the time. I wantso badly to just hand life back. We only get one.
I also have a hard time with it. My mother has attempted suicide more times than i can recall. She tried yeserday. I almost lost her. It is a slap in the face and no matter how many times she tries, always just as scary. Our system for mental health in this country is a joke. I ave seen and experienced so much.It is a facct. Mental health in this country is not taken seriously.
I have friends and family trying and winning the battle of mental health. I have friends and family that lost it.
I am still here (my near death experience had nothing to do with mental health my body failed me during delivery of titus) bui am still here. I am going to start a campaign. A charity. For mental health. Bipolar. Depression.anxiety.suicide. Our health is important. Your life is important. Dont let anyone make you feel like it isnt. Even on your darkest day, you are alive, and that is beautiful.
Tuesday, August 12, 2014
If I saw myself
Today my husband said dont stretch like that in front of me when the boy's are awake. I looked at him like what? Ew. Ew because of me. Because of my body. Because of my c section. The baby weight. 12 lbs. 12 horrible nasty pounds, which really look like 20 on me.
I said ew because I dont understand how anyone could find me attractive. Beautiful. I am bombarded with pictures of moms who "got it back" quickly after a baby. I was one of them after James. But after 3 miscarried children and a traumatic birth, an emergency hysterectomy, struggles with breastfeeding. .. I find that I dont recognize my body. I find that it is hard to find myself under all of that weight. My happy. My self confidence. It seems to have really taken a beating.
And I feel awdul for it. I feel like I am telling my husband he is ridiculous for loving me. Finding me attractive l he is amazing and I know he wouldn't lie to me.
I feel like I am calling God a liar. He isn't capable of making something, someone in his image that is not beautiful. Awe inspiring.
It is going to take me a long time to let go of the self hate amd learn to self love, something I've never done well.
I'm sure you may be wondering what my husband said when I said ew. I also said why. How is this attractive as I held my stretch marked fat around my belly.
What he said made me cry and feel ashamed. Ashamed for only thinking about myself , seeing nothing about myself.
He told me that I am beautiful. That he loves me. That he prayed for me. That I am the mother of his children. I am his best friend. That he waits to come home to me. He said so much that I can't even remember it all. He said he loves my body because it carried his babies and grew them. He talked about God he talked about us he talked about them. All of this that he sees when he sees and thinks of me.
Nothing that I see or think of when I see me. He doesn't see 12 lbs of stubborn weight that is probably hormones that wont come off until titus weans. He doesn't see stretch marks. He doesn't love handles. He sees the woman God gave him. An answer to his prayers. The mother and wife God allowed him to keep. The woman he fought for, the horrible girl driver that is his best friend.
I need to find her. I want to see her when I stand infront of the mirror.
I can only hope and pray that God can mold me into the image he sees. That my boys and my husband have a mother and wife who loves them, and herself. I think that's important. Society today just knocks us down. We beat ourselves up so much and then turn on a tv or read a magazine. But I should be reading their faces, their voices, their body language, and my Bible. Because from that I'll find the truth. In them I will be able to see myself. In loving them maybe I can learn to love myself.
Monday, August 11, 2014
The what's are never ending
I want to get back to blogging. I want an orgnized blog. I could potentially blog for a living. I would love that. As it is in today's society journalism is bekng molded. I love journalism. Opinion pieces, hard news, soft newsm weather. I simply love it. So where do I start. What do I do. What do I write about. How do I figure out what to write about. How do I stay organized when I am scatter brained. Advice qanted. Direction wanted. Input needed.
What would you like to learn about? We could totally take a jourmey together over the Internet, but where to and what about. How do I keep you satisfied? Eventually youd get tired of hearing about my beautiful boys lol :p
Input needed.
Sunday, May 25, 2014
As my dreams shattered, God's grace was enough
Saturday, March 1, 2014
Layers and Layer
my flippin laptop is not working well with me when I type. So I probably wont start on it until this weekend when i can find the mouse. But I am going to do it :)
also we started cloth diapering and i would like to write that soon as well as amber teething necklaces. oh and baby wearing! not like you all did not know about this about me before but I am a tree huggin hippy. lol. or at least as much as we can afford. ill be getting into that too. FOOD.
so i guess my goal is to start blogging once a week. and to really get into some topics. some personal like our birth and breastfeeding, and some spiffy stuff like babywearing and cloth diapers. I really want to get my blog organized this year.
I definitely need to figure out to fix this stupid keyboard issues. i have to fix like every sentence because it jumps me around. it is so annoying and honestly the mail reason i have not blogged in a while. i am running low on marbles as it is lol.
Tuesday, January 28, 2014
I miss my blog
So busy with two beautiful boys. But I miss blogging. I need to make a routine so I can work out then blog and stick to it! I also need to stick to reading my Bible wvery day. I have been praying more. Pray for me! I'M TRYING. ♡♡♡
Friday, January 10, 2014
Need to catch up!
Holy goodness. So behind! We had titus nov 10. James is getting big. Titus is 2m now! Lots of snow! Ill try to get back to blogging tonight